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Remember the old saying, “Go away and count to 10”?  Or what about “bite your tongue”?  Ever tried these life hacks only to find they don’t work very well?   We all have moments in our daily lives where we feel triggered.  You might even have had a time where you felt you were about to lose your cool.  Often, the more times we are in a triggering situation, the more reactive we become…until one day you reach the end of your tether and snap back with a sharp comment, only to regret it moments later.  

Wouldn’t it be nice, if were able to respond, not react.  Imagine life where that work colleague who always has an inflammatory comment at the ready, no longer has an impact on you.  Or what if your teenager’s attitude problem no longer bothered you in the same way?    We all come across certain people or situations that really push our buttons.  It’s part of life, but sometimes, it can get to the point where you know the reaction you are having is not helpful and may even be detrimental to you or those around you. 

The aim of EFT is not to eradicate emotions (we want you to live life as a vibrant, thriving human being, not a robot), but what EFT can do is release you from the emotional triggers that are not serving you and may be preventing you from being in a place of choice in certain situations.  EFT will allow you to actually experience triggering situations differently and potentially have an alternative perspective on the once triggering situation.

We all experience bothersome emotions from time to time.  Life was never intended to be plain sailing.  There are going to be ups and downs and we are all going to face difficult life experiences such as the loss of a loved one, a traumatic incident, stress at work or home, divorce…the list goes on.  It’s all part of life’s rich tapestry, but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier when you are going through it.  So much so that the boundary between where we stop and our emotions begin, can become blurred.  We can even start to feel like we are our emotions and our sense of self starts to lose clarity.   EFT is a powerful tool for reducing the intensity of unhelpful or bothersome thoughts, feelings and emotions.  This is done in a gentle, controlled way, but  most interestingly, the reduction in emotional intensity is measurable!   Within the first session, you will know exactly how much of a reduction in emotional intensity you have experienced!  Once the intensity of the emotions is reduced, they no longer feel like they are taking over your life and you can start to feel like yourself again – your sense of self can be rediscovered and this can completely transform your entire quality of life.

Are you still feeling hurt by a relationship you were in a long time ago?   Are you annoyed that what happened all those years back still bothers you?  Are you avoiding relationships because you’re afraid of being hurt again?  Or maybe you find yourself taking old issues into new relationships?  Even though you know it’s not fair to tarnish your new partner with the same brush as the last one, you just can’t stop yourself.   You know that just because the last one cheated on you, doesn’t mean the next one will, yet still you’re suspicious when they don’t text back within a certain timeframe.  You’re not neurotic, you’re carrying emotional baggage. 

This kind of baggage can really weigh you down, but did you ever realise that you can just put the bag down?   You don’t have to lug it around with you.  You have a choice.  You are the one who gets to decide whether you’re going to experience post-traumatic stress or post-traumatic growth after a breakup.  It all comes down to a simple decision;  Do you want to identify as a victim or a victor.  Damaged or heroic – it’s up to you.  Nobody else can decide for you.  You can either be held back because of your painful past or you can make a concerted effort to move forward despite it.  You may not have been told this before, but you get to choose your response to heartbreak. 

Sounds easier said than done?  EFT can gently take the sting out past events.  Imagine being able to recall the memory of an old partner, but not have the emotional “ouch factor” to go with it?  That’s completely possible with EFT.  Heartbreak is one of those inevitable parts of life that very few escape, but once you stop feeling hurt, you can actually learn so many valuable lessons from it – Calm seas never made a good sailor. Think of the prospect of being able to hone wisdom and understanding from your difficult experiences, but not have them hold you back.  It’s completely possible with EFT.  There’s no reason why you can’t move from being “once bitten, twice shy” to living life “once bitten, twice wise.”

We’ve all been there.  Where every day starts to feel a bit mundane.  Where you’ve lost lost your va-va-voom and your ‘get up and go’ has got up and gone.  You want to make progress, but can’t see a way out of your current circumstances or might not be feeling motivated enough to make the changes your heart desires.  If life is starting to feel like Groundhog Day, but you’re not sure how to dig yourself out of the hole, it could be that you’ve got an unhelpful behaviour pattern, thought loop or a limiting belief that is holding you back.  

EFT is very effective at helping to unravel unhelpful behaviour patterns, even if you don’t understand why or how the pattern has come about.  EFT can gently dismantle liming beliefs (we all have them in our blind spots and usually need someone else to point them out for us) and once your limiting beliefs are no longer holding you back, it’s highly likely you’re going to experience a positive change within yourself – that’s called growth and as we grow, the way we view the world around us starts to shift.  

This is when we start to experience life differently; in other words, when change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.  This is when you are able to identify and consider new prospects and broader horizons.

Yes, phobias are irrational and intense, but boy are they real!  You know that spider isn’t going to eat you and  you are fully aware that statistically, flying is safer than driving, yet you still experience terror or dread.  You’re not being dramatic and no you’re not an attention seeker.  There’s actually a very simple explanation for why phobias can make us act like we’ve lost touch with reality.   

The part of the brain that deals with logic and reason is at the front of your head and is commonly referred to as the frontal lobe.  The part of your brain that’s freaking out is located towards the back of your head and is called the amygdala.  Now here’s the interesting thing;  both those parts of the brain can’t be “online” at the same time.  Just like both ends of a see-saw can’t be up at the same time.  When we get triggered, the amygdala is activated, making the frontal lobe go “offline”.   The amygdala is like an alarm system and alerts us of perceived danger.  It’s doing it’s job to keep you safe – or so it thinks.  Hence, it’s completely possible to become hysterical over something that in the cold light of day, you know isn’t actually going to harm you.  

The fix is simple. EFT is very affective at dialling down the sensitivity of the amygdala so it doesn’t fire unnecessarily (like with a phobia) and once the amygdala is deactivated, the frontal lobe can come back “online”.  In other words, you don’t freak out at the airport or start screaming when a spider crawls into the bath. 

Emotional eating or comfort eating can feel like you’re feeding your heart, not your stomach and that’s not as illogical as it sounds. The emotional relationship you have with food started to be formed the day you were born.  Think about it.  What’s the first thing a parent does when their baby cries?  Give it attention, cuddle it and feeds it.  So within the first few days of life, our brains start making the connection between our cries being soothed and being fed.  

We start to associate feeding time with care, safety, comfort and connection.  So much so that it’s not unusual for mothers to nurse babies simply to help them fall asleep, or just to stop them crying, regardless of whether they’re hungry or not.  You could pretty much call that a comfort feed.  Satiety signals get bypassed and instead, new neural pathways are formed, connecting the feeling of a full tummy with contentment, warmth and affection.  No wonder it can be so hard to stick to a diet, when every time you’re stressed, worries, upset, anxious (fill in the emotions of your choice) you have the urge to eat.  You’re not greedy and you do not lack willpower and your not a dieting failure.  You are up against deeply engrained neural wiring that’s as old as you are. However, through EFT, you can address the underlying emotional reasons behind the eating.  

Once the emotional root cause is dealt with (usually nothing at all to do with food), you are then in control of what, when and how much you eat – not your feelings.  When you have a fast and effective way of soothing your emotions, you won’t need to use food as a comfort any more and with consistency it’s completely possible to re-wire the neural pathways in the brain.  The habit can be changed so that instead of reaching for cake I response to an emotion, you go to the EFT techniques you have learnt.  That is the point where you can make real food choices.  That is when you can really tune into your body and nourish it with what it really needs to be robust and healthy.  You control your emotions, your emotions control you. 

Ever found yourself setting your goals, but not getting your goals?  Have you found that you set yourself a personal or professional targets that you really want to achieve, but then the thought of going through the process of achieving them becomes so daunting or overwhelming that you just don’t know where to start.  What if you could gently but effectively take each step of your success journey , one bite sized chunk at a time, without any unhelpful thoughts, feelings or emotions holding you back?    It would be a game-changer, right?   

That’s where EFT and future pacing come in.  We can diffuse and desensitise any cognitive or emotional aspects that could cause a set back, be that a limiting belief, a feeling of uncertainty or a negative thought loop.  We can then future pace, so rather than looking at the whole journey and freaking out, we break down the process and set a pace that is manageable and comfortable for you.  

EFT can help you get to a point where you feel empowered to strive for your best and working towards your goals can become pleasurable!

Ever find that when you’re stressed your stomach churns?  Ever experienced clammy hands at a job interview because you’re nervous?  Ever had the physical sensation of butterflies in your tummy, whilst on a first date?  Ever had a headache or digestive distress when you are stressed, but once the stress subsides, the headaches or digestive issues diminish?

This is because the mind and body are connected.  In terms of emotional load, what the mind can’t handle, the body will code and then store – hence the emotion generates a physical sensation in the body.  Of course, you must always consult a doctor for any kind of physical symptom before embarking upon EFT.  Once you have done that, if you believe there could be an underlying emotional component to a physical symptom you are experiencing, EFT can be used to specifically address the emotional aspect.  

With a little practise, you can even learn a few EFT self-help techniques.  The less the underlying emotions flair up, the less the physical symptoms will get triggered.